This post originally appeared on my previous site, ipanemic.com
This post is going to be somewhat short and I have soooooo much to say, but I need to get a message out right now. Everything feels like it’s happening at lightning speed.
I don’t know where to begin. I can’t thank everyone enough for your love and support. As a lot of you know, I’ve been on Facebook communicating as much as I can. For the next few days, I’m going to try to post general stuff here and then repost to facebook so that I don’t miss anyone.
Logistically, these are the details:
I am in Charlotte, NC. This city is sort of the home area of my family. My ex-wife and her family are in Newberry, SC. I’ve been spending the nights in Charlotte and driving the two hours to Newberry during the day.
The funeral is on Monday because of Zachary. He had a youth ski trip planned for a long time and his mother and I felt it was important that he go. His mentor in this group… his father committed suicide and we thought it would be good for Zach to have this time.
Visitation is on Saturday while Zach is away and we agreed on that for my sister, Beth and her daughter Katie who have flown in from Copenhagen. They, unfortunately, won’t be able to attend the funeral but will be here for that. So that’s good. Beth and Katie arrived last night.
I would like to tell you this: Alec left a note before he killed himself. He sent his love to all.
If I could offer anyone any comfort at all, I would ask that you embrace every good memory of him and the love that he had for you. He had love in his heart for all. He was an amazing person and I am sooooo very lucky to have had him as a son and a friend. I’m so incredibly grateful for him. It’s unfortunate, to say the least, that his life has ended. I’m just so very fortunate to have had 18 years with him.
I’m doing okay. I’ve been able to take great comfort in the love that Alec and I had for each other. And I’ve been able to take great comfort in the love and support offered by my friends.
Thank you. I’ll be in touch.
Also, if you haven’t been to Alec’s Facebook page, please visit. The outpouring of love, the memories of his life shared… phenomenal.